I Don’t Want to Pick Up Any More Socks
“She looks well to
the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” Proverbs
As a teen I loved hanging out at Miss Pat’s house. Hands
down, she made the best homemade noodles in the Midwest. Often you could find
the creamy-white strips of flour, milk and eggs drying on her kitchen counter,
waiting to be tossed in a simmering pot of chicken soup. Or you might find a
fresh fruit pie cooling near an open window, making her family eager for
Miss Pat took all aspects of her home life seriously. Her
house wasn’t perfect. Still, she kept it cute and clean and made it a haven for
her own family and others.
With as much energy as Miss Pat devoted to
homemaking, you might think that was all she did. But it wasn’t. She was also
active outside her home, including volunteering at her kids’ school, teaching a
weekly women’s Bible study and serving as a youth group leader. Her love for
Jesus was evident as she introduced numerous teens and women to Christ,
However, she reserved her greatest energy and most creative
ideas for her first line of ministry—her own family and home. Miss Pat modeled
how to influence others for Christ not only with the words we speak, but also
the heart with which we run our home.
Sitting around her kitchen table, I
learned Miss Pat’s secret for getting things done. She had a method for doing
laundry … a routine for her cleaning … a game plan for getting groceries …
and a cheerful attitude while doing it all. In fact, now that I’m older, I think
she modeled the Proverbs 31 woman very well.
Proverbs 31:27 tells us
about an unnamed wife and mother (often referred to as the Proverbs 31 woman)
who worked like this. “She looks well to the ways of her household and does not
eat the bread of idleness.”
Now that I have my own home and family, I’m
inspired by these women. Especially during those times I find it easier to be
idle rather than tackle work around the home. The snapshots of organized spaces
and fabulous foods on my computer screen tempt me to spend hours peering at them
rather than doing them.
When running my home seems overwhelming, I
remember Miss Pat and the Proverbs 31 woman. Instead of hoping the house cleans
itself or a hot meal materializes out of the computer, I’m learning to make a
plan and get to work. It’s helpful to keep the mindset that it’s a ministry to
care for my home and family.
This perspective helps me pick up my son’s
socks and make dinner without frustration. It gives me strength when I’ve
already put in a full day’s work. While I am doing these things for my family,
I’m also doing them for God.
There’s no doubt that making our house a
home, and all that involves, can be tiring. We need to balance true rest with
work, while being on guard against laziness and resentful attitudes. Important
questions to ask ourselves are: Am I laboring with a glad heart or do I grumble
about the tasks at hand? Do I view keeping a home as a duty or drudgery, or do I
find it a privilege and pleasure? Am I in need of rest, or am I putting off what
has to be done because I just don’t feel like doing it?
intentional homemaker is a tough yet rewarding job. We get to serve important
people—our very own families.
And the Boss? He’s the best. What an honor
it is to work for Him.
Dear Lord, teach me to look well to the ways of my
household and not be idle, knowing it is actually You I am serving. In Jesus’