Family Dysfunction

Gods Story For Your Life

Family Dysfunction
Read 2 Samuel
When Tamar arrived at Amnon’s house, she
went to the place where he was lying
down so he could watch her mix some
dough. Then she baked his favorite dish
for him. But when she set the serving
tray before him, he refused to eat.
“Everyone get out of here,” Amnon told
his servants. So they all left.

Then he said to Tamar, “Now bring the
food into my bedroom and feed it to me
here.” So Tamar took his favorite dish
to him. But as she was feeding him, he
grabbed her and demanded, “Come to bed
with me, my darling sister.”

“No, my brother!” she cried. “Don’t be
foolish! Don’t do this to me! Such
wicked things aren’t done in Israel. Where
could I go in my shame? And you
would be called one of the greatest fools in Israel. Please, just speak to the
king about it, and he will let you marry

But Amnon wouldn’t listen to her, and since he was stronger than she
was, he
raped her. Then suddenly Amnon’s love turned to hate, and he hated
her even
more than he had loved her. “Get out of here!” he snarled at

“No, no!” Tamar cried. “Sending me away now is worse than what
you’ve already
done to me.” But Amnon wouldn’t listen to her. / (2 Samuel

As a result of David’s sin with Bathsheba,
God said that murder would be a
constant threat in his family, his family
would rebel, and someone else would
sleep with his wives. All this happened
as the prophet Nathan had predicted.
Ammon’s sin was a sad

Rape was strictly forbidden by God (Deuteronomy 22:28-29). But
compounded this sin with another by sending Tamar away. Why was that an
greater crime? By throwing her out, Amnon made it look as if Tamar had
made a
shameful proposition to him, and there were no witnesses on her behalf
he sent away the servants. His crime destroyed her chances of
Because she was no longer a virgin, she could not be given in

Amnon was encouraged by his cousin
Jonadab to commit sexual sin (2 Samuel
13:3-5). We may be more vulnerable to
the advice of our relatives because we
are close to them. However, we must
make sure to evaluate every piece of
advice by God’s standards, even when it
comes from relatives.

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